Welcome back to Love den...
Somebody ask me a question...how were you able to maintain the love
between you and your spouse right from the beginning of the relationship? and I
ask the person..."how exactly did you started?" because for you to decide
that you want to maintain something, that shows that it is good and worthy of
maintaining. Ok...so how exactly did you started, and why is it difficult now
to maintain the good old days?
It wasn't as if I never know the answer to the question
asked or the one I also asked...it was just because I never imagine that a
relationship that started extremely well, can now become a hang over, I don't
understand why we can't just tolerate one another, the purpose of marriage is
for the two people involve to complement one another, so why is it difficult
for us to live peaceably with each other? This actually is not what we set out
together to achieve, those days we use to tolerate each other, but now we don't,
maybe because the lady is now married or the man is now married, hence we don't
see any reason to go the extra mile again.
I need to recount my own experience, which actually is not
different from what we knew about...I know there were other men on the queue, I
was always on my toes...I remember I will visit her, and she will take a walk
with me to my place, (which is not far), and the two of us will end up walking
back to her place, and I will eventually protest by the time she wants to
follow me again..it was so unique, we never wanted to leave each other for a
minute...but what happened after marriage? it looks as if we have seen enough
of each other!!!
Do your wife look like a cloth you have used over time, and
need to replace? does she look like an automobile that have past its prime? the
key word is TOLERANCE!!!
See your wife as somebody who has come into your life to complement
you, for us to be totally whole, there is someone who has to take up the unique
responsibility, lets begin to see ourselves as unique and valuable in whatsoever
the future holds for us, this is what being human is all about.
Do what your husband says he want from you...what is the
purpose of the argument with your husband, when all it brings along your way is
pain and regret...do whatsoever he likes, and win him to your side. I am so
much passionate about this, why should I say, I like my wife this way,
or I want her to change this particular attitude, and the woman cannot for the
sake of love and the family adjust...when you begin to listen to what your spouse's
needs are, and you are ready to meet it no matter what, then you are on your
way gradually to pull your relationship back together.
Finally, I want to believe it is high time we begin to pay
serious attention to those blissful days, and begin to ask ourselves what was
both driving us crazy then, that is totally missing now, lets go back to those
things, don't say "oh, am getting old, I don't think I can do that
again"...if going back to those things will bring some spices back into
your relationship and make your marriage better again, I think there is no big
deal in giving it a shot!, after all, you are in the position to do it, and the
ability is also there...so what are you waiting for? if I can write and you can
act, then we will both smile at the end of the day, and your relationship will surely
be better for it...You will surely get it right.
I will love to hear from you...if surely this series has been of help to you one way or the other, feel free to share your experience in the comment box below...
