How to handle setback in Relationship

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Many relationships are actually passing through the knife...many homes are groaning in pain, many families are seeking for relief, so much as many are seeking for where they have missed it, the truth sometimes need to be told...setback sometimes will come! that your sweetheart may decide to leave, that your husband may start behaving irrational, that your wife may no longer show commitment again, that your job that is making you feel on top of the world may disappear, that marriage may crash, you may suffer the loss of a dear one...in all these, life continue, and you just have to find a way to move round it, you‘ve got to move on.

So let’s break it down...life is in phases and nobody knows when the setback will come, should we then prepare for setback? I think so, this will help to reduce the effect it normally have on us at times, once  we prepared, it will be much more easier to take the shock...

But why setback? Setback comes into our lives so that we can feel the other side of life, so that we can have a taste of the bitter pill. Sometimes, it can come to make you stronger, to infuse strength within you. Have you lost a lucrative job, and finding it difficult to live at full capacity again? That is a setback! Have you just lost a promising relationship and it seems as if your world is about to come to an end? That is a setback! Have you lost a love one, and it looks like life means nothing to you again? That is a setback! Most times, we don't have control over the degree of setback we suffered; most times it is always beyond us.

Setback is not meant to break us, this is where many get confused about their setback, they see what they are passing through as the final straw that breaks the camels back. Many begin to ask questions..."why is this happening to me?" Setback is not meant to destroy us., rather, it is meant to toughen us, to test us, to nurture us, to drill us and to leave us better than it met us. If all we are seeing is nothing but confusion, the lesson inherent in it may not be learnt, and this is more dangerous than even the setback itself.

So how then should we handle setback in our various relationships? This is because setback changes things around us, it also have the power to change us positively or negatively.

Anytime you are face with a devastating setback, it is very important to identify the lesson embedded in the trial, for setback are great period of trial. This is not the time to be depressed, dejected or perplexed, this is the time to be strong, and identify the purpose in the setback.

Purpose is key...irrespective of the level of challenges that you face everyday, hold on to your belief, as yourself sincere question about what you are passing through, and pull inward to draw strength within. You know what? During your trial period, people will definitely move away from you. Don’t expected much from people, because you won’t get it, the best thing is YOU!, you‘ve  got to be strong, so that you can easily learn from such trial.

One of the key point of trial is the non stipulated time it is suppose to last, you may be surprised that the more you undergo such pain and endure such turmoil, the more it look as if the trial will never end, I discussed about drawing inward the other time, this is to be able to understand the purpose of the trial, and to be able to align with it, by doing this, the duration of the trial will be shorten  because you fully understand why you are going through the trial.

This is very important and we need to understand it, understand what? We must understand that  trials could be overcome, if we align with all the stipulated instruction within it, let us always know that we don’t have a control on the kind of setback that we may suffer in life , but we can determine the outcome by aligning well with the setback…

I know you can overcome it, and I know that you will overcome it.

I will love to hear from you...if surely this series has been of help to you one way or the other, feel free to share your experience in the comment box below...

From: dwise