Lies in Relationships

Welcome back to my love den my friend, how are you?

I used to have a friend full with a bag of lies, and he seems to easily get along very well with girls, within just a snap of the finger, you will see them running to him at top speed...I hated this part of his life so much because I felt he is just taking advantage of those girls, so I try to do one thing...I stop associating with him!

At a point we tend to believe that lying is cheap and saying the truth is very costly...I use to listen to my dad during his days, he use to say "son, lies has many friends, but the truth is always lonely"...as much as telling a lie is bad, people find it easier to believe a lie than believing the truth.

What will make somebody tell lies in relationship? maybe low self esteem. Lets check that out, when you doubt your ability, then you can think low about yourself, and when the opportunity present itself, you may find yourself telling lies to measure up...when somebody ask about who you are, and you look around, something may quickly suggest to you that you are the least in the rank, and if you don't find a way to cover up, you may lose the little friends you already have...lies sometimes can save you a temporary face, but it has the ability to permanently disfigure you at the long run, so why indulge in it?

Lying is destructive, it has the ability to scatter a long standing relationship...but you know what? I would rather allow a relationship built on lies to scatter now, than wait for it to scatter later, because whether you like it or not, it will eventually scatter at the end, and that experience could prove too difficult to handle.
 

Let me talk to you a little bit...why will you like to watch the person who love you so much, go through the experience of deceit? how do you feel when you look into that innocent face, and all you see there is trust and respect, while all you give back in return is lie, deceit and nothing but lie? don't you feel some pain for that person? don't you understand the extend of the damage it could do to that person, when it eventually become crystal clear that all you have been saying is a lie?

I find it very difficult to understand...I mean, it is very difficult for me as a person to comprehend...so all this while, money and time inclusive, the end result is going to be futility? how will the person take it? will he/she ever recovered from the shock of such a deceit? what happens to all you have built together over the years? Lies is an enemy, running away from it is great wisdom, because what it can destroy cannot be easily explained...

So for me personally, low self esteem, and selfish interest in a lying habit could be the major reason people tell lies, and even when they know it could destroy all they have built, they still find themselves telling more lies to correct their flaws...and really to many, the devastating effect of their action may not be easily known to them, until they eventually see everything they have built over the years start crumbling at their feet.

Finally, some people may not understand the gravity of their action, they may want to change, but don't know how to go about the change, such people need serious counseling and rehabilitation.

Some of them need to be told that building a good self esteem based on lies is not ideal, and will definitely lead them nowhere, they just have to believe in themselves and in their God given ability, they need to realize that they have what it takes to build a formidable brand for themselves, and not to doubt their ability and potential, but for the selfish and habitual liar, it is always advisable to run away from them, for they take great delight in what they do, not minding the effect it will have on others, and come to think of it, who wants to build a long and lasting relationship on lies? the end result, is better said, than imagine...

So my friend, lie is deceitful, it destroys, it scatters, it separate entirely good and ideal relationship. Do you know my advice to you? run away from the claw of lies before it totally destroys you. 

I will love to hear from you...if surely this series has been of help to you one way or the other, feel free to share your experience in the comment box below...

From: dwise