Taking Responsibility in Relationship

Welcome back...

How are you and how has your relationship fare this week? Don't mind me, just trying to show some level of concern, after all, you are my brothers and sisters...when you are ok in your relationships, believe me, I am equally ok!

Before we push forward, let me quickly inform you about dwise lovers den ,that is a sister blog to this blog and I will encourage you to also visit there and get vital information on how to handle your relationships.

Now, what exactly are we looking at today? RESPONSIBILITY...! Yeah, you surely heard me! Responsibility is the soul of every relationship, it is accompanied by trust, compassion, love, care, confidence and tenderness...but why can't people handle responsibility? Am limiting this kind of responsibility to "responsibility in relationships", why do people start relationship, then after some time, they are off? Why do marriages that look so promising suddenly break down without any meaningful or genuine excuse? Why do two great friends suddenly become two great enemies?

This is how I am going to start, and it is entirely my opinion...before you enter a relationship with somebody, especially the kind of relationship that you believe could eventually lead to marriage, take your time and make up your mind, then after you are really sure you feel like going ahead, tell yourself sincerely "now that I have made up my mind about Nancy, and have decided to fully start a relationship with her, whatsoever happens afterwards, becomes my responsibility...I will never shift it on her, knowing fully well that it took me time to make up my mind about her."

Let me take it right up with you Julie...you know how long it took you to accept his advances, at that point in time, what were you looking for? Let me help you girl...you were looking at how kind he could be, how generous he is, how industrious and how caring a man he claim to be, so why the complain now, or didn't you do your homework perfectly well? Remember you choose him, out of the dozens trooping after you...and it took you a long time to do this, so how did he eventually become suddenly bad?

Hey, common Richard...remember you said she was the best thing to have ever happened to you, you said that the mere thought of her use to drive you crazy, you said it is either her or no one else, why is she now an idiot? After all the time you spent chasing her up and down the alley, why has she suddenly becomes bad overnight? Oh! Someone should please tell me why?

I think the problem of taking responsibility in relationship starts from the beginning of the relationship...before you enter a relationship with anybody, take time to ask yourself..."if anything go bad, am I going to be ready to fix it, instead of heaping the blame on the other person?, will I be man enough to accept the blame and take responsibility for everything that happened?, will I be woman enough to say "am sorry" , even when its crystal clear that it wasn't my fault?"...once you can settle all these in your heart at the beginning of the relationship, no matter what is thrown at you afterwards, you will be ready to face and conquer it.

The bottom line is this...you are the one that choose her, nobody choose her for you, so why don't you take absolute responsibility for your choice? you single him out, among many suitors, why don't you Grow up, and take responsibility for your action? The moment we realize that our action should be a replica of our choice, the better for us.

This is my own opinion...what is yours?

I will love to hear from you...if surely this series has been of help to you one way or the other, feel free to share your experience in the comment box below...

From: dwise